*A male reader, Kevin33 +, writes (20 February 2009):

Well you have definitely asked this question at the right time lol. Ive got a story for you. I am almost in the same position as you, yet its been quite hard for me to accept it.

*I am now 23 and she is 21. We were together for 5 years. High-school sweethearts and first everything. I understand that your first love is always the hardest and some people say that this never lasts. Well in the later years in high-school I never had a girlfriend. Not knowing love or just having flings was a norm for most; still young and free.

*Sitting everyday for lunch in a large cafeteria with hundreds of people I would always notice this one girl. I only noticed her when she was wearing a specific sweater lol weird. I payed no attention to it to pursue it further. Over and over, I she would catch my eye.

*Near the end of grade 12 I became down knowing that at prom I would not have date. It was hard seeing everyone pair up, I was very close to not going. One day my best friends sent me a message in class saying there was someone who liked me and wanted to meet me. At the time he was dating a girl and it happened to be one of her friends.

*I added her to my list at home, started talking and I saw a picture. It happened to be the girl I always noticed yet did not pursue. She called me the next day! she asked me to go to a music banquet, my first meeting. It was amazing, I then took her to the movies where the chemistry that night was unbelievable. I asked her out and she said yes. Prom was amazing.

*We have been through every transition now together from high school, colleges, and careers. We had been together for the past 5 years. Very few last this long. I became soo close with her family and our like turned into a very strong love. We fit so perfectly with each other.

*All of a sudden a few weeks ago she decided that she was still young and felt like our relationship was a routine. She obviously did not have these strong feelings near the end. She wanted to see what else was out there because she did not want to regret this later in life.

* We met up last week for a coffee and spoke about it. She grabbed my hands, out hearts beating fast and told me how much she loved and misses me yet has to do this. She started to cry. I asked her two question: Was it true? and she said yes, I asked her: Were you happy until the very end, and she said definitely. I treated her and her family with utmost respect.

*My love grew each day. She has now started to date another who is very different from me. I do not know if that will last but I know for a fact she met him in the past week. It is very hard for me to hear this, and don't know how she could do it. Everyone is shocked.

*I miss her so, and will wait for her as long as I can. I will be open but will not put my life on hold, if something comes along I will pursue it.

*I thought she was the "one" and still do. I hope that one day fate will help our paths cross again. After everything she is doing, I still love her. I just don't know why she would ruin a bond so special between us being out first everything. People always say that everyone thinks their first is their last.

*Well in this case it's different. 5 Years is a very long time, and I was ready and happy to spend my life with her. I am a better person to have known her and do not regret anything. The best years of my life were with her by my side. I

*I cant believe I'm saying this: No matter what happens I want her to be happy, whether it be with me or someone else. I will live a happier life if I know she has what she wants. No matter how hard she tries, it will not be possible to erase or compare our memories and love to another. I will remember it all forever.